I don't do many book reviews lately, but a friend asked me if I wanted to review How to Embrace Your Inner Hotness--An Inside-Out Approach to a Lasting Makeover. It covered some topics we'd been chatting about, and when I heard the title, I said, "Sure."
The word hotness is used in this book to define your appeal to others, but not in the traditional way we think of as being hot. Generally when I think of hotness I think of someone's sexual appeal, but Leta Green, a motivational speaker and beauty expert, uses the term to describe what our essence is--what draws people to us. Just like the warmth of a flame on a cold night, our inner hotness can draw people to us for the right reasons.
I admit that I'm still not a fan of the word hotness as a general term unless it relates to my husband's view of me, but I can accept it in the fashion Leta describes and uses in this book. (Yeah, I'm a weirdo, but you already knew that.)
The book consists of three parts. The first part talks about how to give yourself an inside-out makeover, how to build your hotness from the ground up. Leta teaches with stories and examples from her childhood that I found fascinating. How can a flannel-clad, shy tomboy with scars and missing front teeth gain confidence? Yes, now you want to know, too, don't you? She also describes ways to use imagery to help get rid of the negative self-talk most (nearly all) of us face.
One of the awesome tools she teaches how to use are "Vanity Prayers." Now, in my mind vanity has always been a negative, and the only connection it had with prayer was repenting or asking for help with vanity. I kind of wish the book had a different term for this tool, because my brain balked every time I read the words. However, the actual exercise is not anything about vanity or praying to yourself, but something that I'm going to institute into my routine to help me overcome negativity about myself. I would share here, but you're going to have to get the book to find out how to do it. *insert smiley face* She also talks about how to put together your look that you're showing the world, and about developing confidence. Lots of good information in this section. She's also not afraid to talk about body waste and "pooperness" as it relates to things we don't want in our lives emotionally. That was something I hadn't come across in a self-help sort of book before, but it wasn't over the top, and it feels like Leta's talking to you while sitting on your living room couch. I'd love to hear her speak in person someday.
Part Two is about finding or rediscovering your perfect match. Even though I'm happily married, this part was an interesting read, and I consider her advice a must-read for singles. Once, when I was dating a man (a few months before I met my husband), I was asked by a sister in church, "Are you sure you're not looking too deep?" Thing was, people were waiting for our wedding announcement. We ended up being wrong for each other, and no, I wasn't looking too deep. Leta addresses figuring out how to figure out exactly what it is you're looking for in a spouse.
Part Three was my favorite, all about how happily ever after is a choice. Leta shares some of her extremely hard struggles and how she learned to have true happiness in spite of them. She is an amazing woman. I read this section practically spellbound. Don't be surprised if your eyes don't stay dry. The three lines that struck deep into my heart are where she asks herself at the end of every day:
Have I honored myself?
Have I honored those who depend on me?
And have I honored my God?
Those are questions I'm going to begin asking myself.
I'm really glad I read this book. The beginning was a little slow for me, but that's because I'd already implemented some of what she talked about, and I was ready to get to the next part. I think there's something for every woman in this book no matter where she is along the path of life. Leta also talks about her relationship with God being vital, which is also something I appreciate.
Purchase the book here: Finding Your Inner Hotness